What do you do when you’ve finally screwed up the courage to tell your special someone how you feel? Perhaps you started off as friends and realized over time that your feelings have changed.
Or perhaps you weren’t sure whether you make a move; in Gi L’s case, being cautious and taking a more roundabout route isn’t necessarily a bad idea.
I won’t bring it up again unless Regardless of whether you come across as an annoyingly enthusiastic puppy or someone who’s pressuring them for a “yes”, the more you bug them the less likely you are going to like the answer.
Giving her space isn’t going to ensure that you get a “yes”, but pestering her is going to all but .
So I want you to imagine what it would be like if a close but utterly platonic friend told you that they (he or she, your choice) has a crush on you and wanted to go on a date with you.
Ignore the impulse to just leap to “Well, I’d say yes! Have they been holding this in the entire time, or did they catch the feels recently? Will you be able to stay friends afterwards, or will you become one of those ex-couples that can’t stand each other after a break up? Think about all of this carefully, because these are all the thoughts that are going to go through That last one is especially important; odds are good that this could come like a giant space flea from nowhere and she may have to take a few minutes to hard reboot her brain. Start with giving her permission use the l-word; it’s intimidating at best and can leave her feeling overwhelmed and uncomfortable).
Do you catch her looking at your lips or doing the elevator stare?
Does she orient her body towards you or make little invasions of your personal space with her belongings? Does she play along, avoid the topic entirely or just shut you down cold?We’ve even talked about how to try to reframe a purely platonic relationship into a potentially sexual one. I rarely get nervous, but whenever I tell myself that today’s the day I tell her, I just end up chickening out at the last minute. This is one of the most common ways that we end up dealing the complicated nature of trying to navigate the Friend Zone.But one of the things we discussed are the mechanics of actually making that leap. It’s a tricky maneuver, and one that carries serious risks to your relationship as it currently stands. You meet somebody who is simply awesome, but you don’t make a move at first.You’re an awesome person and I really value our friendship, but I like you as more than a friend and I’d like to take you out on an actual date.If you don’t feel the same way, that’s completely fine: I’m happy being friends with you no matter whether we date or not and this doesn’t change anything.You know her better than I do, so hopefully you’ve got a grasp on how she’d handle being approached by another woman. well, I’d say approach with caution.) But regardless of the circumstances, the fact of the matter is: you’re in a platonic relationship that you would like to turn into a romantic or sexual one.